Welcome to the site, please let us know how you found us by the link my sig!
And more power to you, girl gamers ftw.
Also, you might try out livejournal - they have a 'girl_gamer' community or two that are fairly active, might find players there. I've posted about OKgamers on there before, didn't have a whole lot of response though - probably didn't help I'm not a girl lol.
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